Thursday, August 30, 2012
Recently, (as in a year ago), I embarked on transitioning from public school teacher to home educator. When I was in the process of this change (all of last year), I was told that homeschooling wasn't school it was a lifestyle. I was bound and determined to keep it like my previous lifestyle. Although, the more I saw what my family needed, the more I started to change how I managed my "school." This included helping our family find a church, inviting God back into our lives, and doing what the kids needs as opposed to what I thought they were supposed to be doing.
Now a year later, I have a 12 year old who is on grade level, and learning some serious life lessons (how to help those in need, how to have integrity with all the work he does, and respect for people in charge), a 3 year old who is learning what a schedule and school feels like, and a baby who is teething. I am learning to embrace the multitasking part of the day and getting house cleaning and school done at the same time! Today, I found myself embracing this new lifestyle, as I danced a crazy animal dance with Eve while wearing Kohl and still helping Wayne with some of his grammar.
So, what does the homeschooling lifestyle look like? That I am not sure about. At our house it is noisy, chaotic, intense and disciplined! It looks like a tornado at the end of the day, and feels like we could all use a nap. However, it can be very rewarding for all involved. No, not everyday is perfect. But each day is an adventure that we all learn from!
Embrace your lifestyle what ever it may be!
Tuesday, July 10, 2012
Tuesday, May 1, 2012
1. LEARNING: This means to acquire new knowledge for long term. "If they can't remember it tomorrow it ain't learnt!"
- Learning is not always academics.
- The kids are not the only ones learning.
- Everyday, someone in your house will learn something new
- Time with my children is precious and should not be squandered off.
- School time does not have to be 8-3, it can be 6- noon, it can be all day, it can be in the evenings, over nap time, you decide what is best for your family, or each kid.
- Our best time varies by kid and parent.... Example: Wayne is best early in the morning, Mom is not good until 9 am, Eve is good to go around 7:30, Kohl runs his own schedule that interferes with everyone else!
- You must take time to watch your children learn (if you blink they will be grown up), and that aha moment in your own children is far more valuable than that moment you get watching others learn.
- If your day screams, RUN AWAY FROM SCHOOL, you can do this (Declare it a Holiday!) run have fun and play. you have 180 days you must account for learning out of 365. If they learn something while you are running away, it is a school day. If they do not, then it is a break.
- Buying structured curriculum works if you need structured lessons.
- 1 size does not fit all, do not compare what your friends are buying, what worked for the previous child, yourself or your husband, find what fits your kiddo.
- When the curriculum isn't working, add in your own ideas to help him learn.
- It is perfectly ok to use the library as your reading, science and social studies curriculum. Ask questions of what your kids read, show them how to research and read about the stories of history.
- Make sure to walk away from the text pages for a little fun every now and again
- MAKE an individualized learning plan (IEP in Public schools) for each kid, plan what you want them to learn as opposed to just getting through a book! Test these skills often and modify your plan as needed!
- Save family vacation for times that are not regularly scheduled for the rest of the school world (better travel, more fun!).
- Use family vacation as school days if you can!
- Make the holidays about the family as opposed to about the hoopla that is advertised.
- Kids love: making gifts, decorating, and hosting friends.... let them!
- Alot can be loved from being charitable, try even at a different time from the holidays!
Monday, April 30, 2012
- · I am the mother of 3 wonderful children who light up the world daily.
- · I am the wife of a patient man who loves me despite my flaws.
- · I am a teacher to the most precious gifts from God (my own children).
- · I am the person who does laundry with love and enjoys hanging the laundry on the line.
- · I am a powerful woman who has decided to change the world by living in a more spiritual manner.
- · I am not only a super mom, but I am THE SUPERMOM of my humble abode.
Monday, March 26, 2012
You homeschool!?!?!? Aren’t you smarter than that? Didn’t you go to college to become a teacher and have a career? Your son is autistic, how are you going to ensure his social skills are developed? You are a public educator, why are you pulling your son out of public school? You know the system works!
These are all questions that were asked to me and that I asked myself when considering this adventure. Even my own family in education thought what I was doing was a huge tragedy for Wayne, and for me. When I say that choosing to homeschool was the toughest decision in my life, I truly mean it. All other tough choices were clear. This one was a cluttered choice with me having to dig deep as to what was my goal and motive for homeschooling.
1) I knew I had missed out on 2 of the most valuable years in my daughter’s life by giving my all to a group of children who were not my own children. I felt a struggle as I neglected my own children by leaving them in the care of others or just flat out not paying attention to them. Being pregnant, I did not want to miss out on those things with my 3rd child, and I wanted to be able to give my daughter all she needed from me during her later preschool days.
2) I have taught almost 100 high risk to special needs children and helped them grow significantly and almost overcome their gaps in education. However, I did not have the time or energy at the end of the day to help my own special needs child close his gap. Over the last 3 years, I have watched him make gains but only fall further and further behind instead of catching up. I knew he could do better, and I was the one who could make sure he did.
1. Provide quality curriculum in an intense but loving manner to help my son catch up to his same age peers.
2. Surpass all the IEP goals set for him by the public school system and encourage him to continue to grow.
3. Encourage, cheer, and observe my daughter grow and become excited about her own education.
4. Be a full time mommy and help encourage the 3rd (unborn at the time) to meet all of his developmental milestones and know he is loved and needed.
5. Grow as a family closer with more respect towards each other and how we are our own community.
The Main Events:
This school year, we have had meltdowns, blow outs, and battles of wills. It has been full of ups and downs. From the beginning, we had to establish roles, Mom the teacher, Mom the mother, Wayne the student, and Wayne the son. We also had to figure out where Eve fit in the picture. She was a strong willed toddler when we began the year, and although she is still only 2, she is a curious preschooler. After starting early, July 4, we plunged right into school with learning our levels and setting our own learning goals.
In September, we did something all school kids would love to do…. A field trip near the equator! We took off to Costa Rica and did school early in the morning before the rest of the group was up, and then spent the rest of the day learning through tours, trips on the beach, or just plain observing life around us. To wrap up the field trip and our learning, we celebrated with Costa Rica night.
In October, we hit burn out mountain, we were all tired. I was only a month away from delivery and worn out. We plunged through October, watching learning goals be met, the word “I can’t” disappear, and independence on the brink. We also took 2 field trips in October, 1 to King’s Mountain and 1 to Columbia to the State Museum. The State Museum was a blast that we shared with the Ropplets.
November was a fast but fun month. We tried to squeeze in all the school we could get in, along with the holiday fun we were accustomed to. Come November 24, school would be done and the first half of the year complete. With Braxton hicks contractions hitting almost daily, we managed to finish the first half of the year out with a bang. Wayne was ready to begin on all new levels come the spring semester. He had met over half his annual goals.
We had the wonderful opportunity to celebrate Thanksgiving with the Landis side of the family and enjoy the festivities. Kohl (the 3rd) made his debut on his father’s birthday, November 30. We hosted Christmas with the Landis’ at our house, enjoyed a quiet Christmas on Christmas day at home, and then headed to Louisiana for more family fun.
When we arrived back home in January, we waited for about a week before truly hitting the grindstone again. Wayne continued to work hard, but would have mini meltdowns and would just struggle with getting back into his
schedule. I do not blame him; his baby brother had no schedule yet! We struggled through January and hired Kerri in February to help with Eve and to get through the distractions of school. We also started heading back to the library for Homeschool at the Library. Our learning goals had also changed in February, by the end of February, Wayne had met all of his annual goals and we needed to set new ones. Also, Wayne moved up to his 5th grade math book, and reading with books on tape to a 6th grade level. He was reading on grade level 60 wpm. We have seen tons of improvement. However, with effort, Wayne had been attacked by the 5th
Grade virus. This is the virus that keeps all 5th graders from acting like the sweet young children they were just before Christmas but instead makes them act like crazy lost minded victims of puberty. Also a huge highlight of the year, Wayne posed with a mascot!
We have approached March and are close to spring testing (later this week). Wayne has out done the expectations that I have had for this year. I believe he is actually enjoying school and knows that he is growing. This school year will end on May 24, but Wayne will continue to do 5th grade until the 1st week in August to help him finish meeting the second round of goals.
Let’s be realistic: this year has not been the most fun all the time where the world is roses and my kids have just naturally learned to be great students and children. There were downs. Just as Dr. Seuss predicted in Oh The Places you will Go! There were drab times, waiting times, and times we just wanted to give up, however, we did not give up! So let’s look at the doldrums.
1. The students do not go home. Yup, that is right they are your children, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and if you want a parent teacher conference, you have to look at yourself in the mirror.
2. There is a TON of work to do each day. For some reason, when you stay at home, your house gets messy. Now to save you the “If you give a Mouse a Cookie” Story. Basically, you have to find a way to balance the house, the big children (students), the little children (your daycare), and the husband (your principal).
3. The Best Laid Plans of Mice and Men: You can have a plan, in fact a plan is suggest. A plan for everything, meals, lessons, chores, etc. However, what you do when the plan fails, truly shows your flexibility and how you react to stress. I think I am still growing here.
4. Discipline: You are going to see the best and worst in your child while homeschooling (their character, their academics, and their motivation). It is the worst that you are going to be the most surprised about and most lost!
Along with the bad times, we have experienced many great times. Those “high flying times.” Some involve friends, others successes, and many family.
1. Birth of a Baby: I have never witnessed the bond between siblings that I have seen with Kohl, Wayne and Eve. They are all so sweet to each other (almost all the time). The true miracle of the birth of the baby has brought joy, love, and overall peace to the family.
2. Finding Faith: I have always hated other people pushing their religious beliefs on me. I have also always had a unique way to view faith and religion. Therefore, I never wanted to push those beliefs onto my children. I wanted them to find God for themselves. This year, I have learned that finding God is a family effort and takes the whole family to learn and grow. If you do not introduce your children to Him, how will they ever know and love him.
3. Goals MET: The most exciting part of being an educator is seeing children meet their goals. Wayne has met and exceeded many goals this year! We have taken this special needs boy who was failing in school and moved him up 2 grade levels as far as development.
4. Seeing Thinking: I have been able to watch my children learn to think for themselves, learn letters, shapes, complex math problems, and character. All of these great steps have been a blessing to observe and know that I helped contributed.
Learning does not happen unless everyone involved is a learner and a teacher.
· I have learned many things and am still striving to master other things.
· I have learned that there is no greater joy in life then seeing your own flesh and blood succeed where they have never been successful.
· I have learned that it is best when the shit hits the fan, to turn it into a bad weather day and see what lesson life will teach you about yourself, your kids, and everyone’s character.
· I have learned that the Serenity Prayer is not enough if you truly do not try to strive for those blessings.
· I have learned that sometimes, talking about it is better than shouting about it.
· I have learned that if you expect a child to persevere, then they will. If you let them give up once, they will want to quit every time!
· I have learned that an education system without policies and procedures, but the highest stakes laid out, both the student and teacher will succeed.
· I have learned that public education policies and politics are what have kept my child from shining.
· And…. The lessons continue to come on a daily basis!
This was just a one year experience and you are putting Wayne back into public school next year right? HAHAHAHAHA! As far as I am concerned, “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” This year was a huge success. I think as a family we have grown as well as in academics. I feel that although there are some changes that will be made to next school year, we will continue to do the homeschooling avenue until it is no longer the correct placement for Wayne. At this point, I feel that if I were to put him back into public education, I will be doing him a disservice and say to him, you are a failure even with one on one, so go back to the garbage heap. You belong in a self-contained chaos class where you will learn to your minimal capacity.
Friday, February 24, 2012
Ok, today is official weigh in day and I actually have time to blog about it. I back lashed. I have gained a pound and am back in the 180's. This is just the icing on the hermit cake. I have not exercised in 2 weeks and have eaten whenever it felt good.
So, last week I celebrated getting to 179 by eating some icecream, cake and other yummies. Then I hit the baby blues really hard! I did not want to leave my nursing corner or go do anything in the afternoon (my normal exercise time). I also found that I was unable to get most of my chores done during the day and just felt a general blah. I found the worse I felt the less exercise I would get and then the next day I would feel even worse.
I spent the last 4 days trying to pull myself out of the funk so I did not have to go to the doctor to try and address depression. So, I have limited my nursing corner to nursing and pumping (no lingering). I have also made a point to make one small change a day. I guess as I climb out of the funk, the weight will start coming off again. However, mental health is key right now.
This Week's Goal:
Weight/ inches: Loose 2 pounds, Be at 169 by the end of March.
Exercise: Add movement each day until I am back at walking and exercising every day.
Food: Eat only when hungary, avoid eating to satisfy a feeling or mood. When I feel the need to eat because I am bored, try move or drink water.
Motto: Time to celebrate but not too much!
Wednesday, February 15, 2012
Woohooo! I lost the weight and met my goal FINALLY a week late of 179 pounds. Not to mention that I lost 3 inches.
I tried to stress less, work out more,and drink tons of water. Other then that I really feel the weight gain was related to hormones.
I am super excited about the weight loss, and hope to continue down.
Also changed weigh in days to Fridays.
This Week's Goal:
Weight/ inches: Loose 1 pound, Be at 169 by the end of March.
Exercise: Take a small break and try to get exercising in 3 days this week.
Food: Another Small celebration of goal, and then keep meals small, eat when hungry but healthy choices.
Motto: Time to celebrate but not too much!
Monday, February 6, 2012
The last two weeks have been blah weeks. Week 4 weigh in I did not loose, still at 181. This week's weigh in, I gained 2 pounds so I am back at 183. I ate right last week (except for date night) and I exercised more than ever.
So, I follow the plan and where does that get me, 2 pounds heavier and 4 pounds from where I wanted to be. Big old frowny face. But in my defense, last week was an emotional week. Kohl is not meeting his target weights either (0pposite problem though). So, I have had to change the schedule feedings and bottle supplements to cluster feedings and feeding on demand. The boy has a high metabolism!
Another change was the big meal in the middle of the day. Although this may work for some I found myself eating 2 big meals a day and never really making the transition. Does this mean I packed on the calories?
Along with that, we are starting to feel the pinch of a 1 income family, and a child hitting puberty. Not a very emotionally fit week. The week before, I think my give a crap broke, so I was just going through the motions.
Lessons learned over the last 2 weeks were, if you want it to happen you have to give a crap, and it is as much of an emotional journey as it is a getting healthy physically.
This Week's Goal:
Weight/ inches: Loose the 2 pounds I gained putting me back at 181 and seeing the 170's before the end of February. I measured in this week, and hoping to loose 2 inches a month, total!
Exercise: Keep focused, 3 videos a week (2 yoga, 1 aerobic/strength) Continue to walk 3/4 a mile daily.
Food: Another vegetarian week, with salads, wraps, and Spanish rice as the focus. Staple food: Black beans and avacados!
Motto: Keep a smile on your face, and avoid the "nots" in life....
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
This week with everything crawling back into a normal schedule, and making sure I added yoga and walking everyday. I feel success. My Monday weigh in was 181 pounds. 30 Pounds to go for my first goal. Two pounds to loose this week to meet my beginning February goal. If I can keep this up, I will reach my goal for the end of the year in 15 weeks. I feel a small sense of success!
After last week's flop of eating and not exercising, I decided to be more committed to the plan. Also Morvin has decided to step in as my gentle trainer. He goes with me on walks to make sure I get the "full walk in." I am walking about 3/4 of a mile a day at this point, doing yoga 2 times a week. (I need to do it today) and trying to work in a boot camp or aerobic exercise at least once a week. Thank you NetFlix.
I have learned that if I do all of this I can still satisfy my sweet tooth in moderation. I have also boycotted making sweet tea and keeping around the house, because then I am the one to drink most of it.
Now, back to organization... I am still not organized, my brain is scattered and my kids pick up on it and knock me down when I am the most weak. On that note, I feel that I have too much on my plate, so I am going to start this week with organizing my tasks.
This Week's Goal:
Weight: See the 170's by loosing 2 pounds.
Exercise: Keep focused, 3 videos a week (2 yoga, 1 aerobic/strength) Continue to walk 3/4 a mile daily.
Food: Trying to have the big meal at the middle of the day, that way I am not going to bed with a heavy meal on my stomach.
Motto: Keep it simple, Don't make any task harder than it should be!
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
This week was not a complete failure, but it wasn't a success either. I managed to loose just 1 pound, Weighing in at 183 pounds. However, to be perfectly honest I did not really try and my coach did not push me too hard either.
Last Monday, I was all Gung Ho about this journey. I got the house cleaned, stuff organized, I should be done, Right? Wrong! This week I learned about maintenance, and that it has to be there.
Well, keeping things organized was hard. By Friday I was running around like a chicken with my head cut off, and didn't do my walking. Saturday, I celebrated my oldest turning 12 and spent most of my day tasting frosting, eating pizza, and a full slice of cake and icecream. Then to top it off, no walk on Saturday either. Guess I should be proud that I lost 1 pound instead of gaining 5!
I learned this week that if I want to loose 2 pounds a week that I will have to WORK at it. I will have to pay attention to what I eat as well as make sure that I get the exercise in DAILY! I learned that maintaining the daily life style is work and keeping focused and organized is essential.
Goals and Plans:
Weight: Loose 2 or more pounds.
Exercise: Do a double lap on the road increasing walk from half mile to 3/4 mile and do yoga 2 times this week.
Food: Watch calories taken in, eat when hungry, eliminate mindless snacking with drinking water.
Motto: You can do this and more. Push your self to the limit so you can SOAR!
Monday, January 16, 2012
There is a very special young man in my life. He has been with me longer than anyone else in this family. His birthday was January 14, and I am writing this for him. He has just turned 12 and has brought nothing but joy in my life since the day he was born.
Who is this young man? Well, he is the infant who liked to be held and loved quiet places. He is the supreme artist who started his career at age 2. He is the preschooler who thought deep but struggled to communicate his thoughts. He is the first grader who told me I needed to find a prince and could use his birthday money to buy one at the prince store. He has gone through some radical hair styles to include green mohawks. He is the one person I can count on to try to please me. Mr. Wayne Walker is a smart young man who can always see the best in people and is always caring about others. Even though he has had his struggles, he continues to try.
Through this last year of his life he has managed to handle changes and challenges like a pro. With a change in school environments, he is now soaring with his academics and is learning about life as well.
Although he will always be my baby boy, I cannot wait to see who this young man will grow up to be. I am very proud to say Wayne is my son!
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
Have you ever made goals to make a positive change in your life, but then not be willing to make the sacrifices needed to reach that goal because of emotional reasons? This has been my struggle with weight loss throughout the years. I am not a clothes person, but each item in my wardrobe has a story and is hard to get rid of keeping me from getting rid of my "big" pants or hurting my feelings when I have to wear the "skinnier" pants because of the bad story that went with them. So here I am at the beginning of my weight loss adventure again. The baby is born. The time is right, and I FINALLY started off lighter than I started before pregnancy. This is my pre-pregnancy picture, I will try to get a picture for next weeks journey. Yes, I know it is horrible!
The Beginning: Where I am starting
Kohl is now 6 weeks old, I am officially starting my weight loss journey this week. My Monday weigh in was 184 lbs. This starts my journey at 12 lbs lighter than I was pre-pregnancy. The ultimate goal is to be under 150 lbs by the end of December or in a size 10.
This Week's Journey:
Over the weekend, I took the first emotional step to this journey. I tried on every piece of clothing I owned. If it fit right, looked good, and had no story it was kept. If it did not look right, fit, or had a bad story, into the give away bin it went. I even used my husband as the test of look right. Yes, ladies, I asked his honest opinion, then looked closely at him to see how honest he was being! Being nice and saying, "It looks ok." is honest, but not brutally honest. So, I watched his eyes. And I am happy to say in all my old clothes, I have some "eye popping" outfits!
This week I learned, that this healthier me is not just going to be about the food and movement, but also about the ridding myself of the negative.
This Week's Goal:
Journey: Continue to purge as I work on organizing the house. I figure if I can keep the house organized, then maybe my life will be more organized and I will be a little happier.
Food: Vegetarian (mostly): Big meal- Egg Plant Parmesan, without frying the egg plant. Not the healthiest but the majority of the week is salad and items that revolve around black beans and avocado.
Exercise: Walk the drive daily (if raining a 30 minute Netflix work out)
Weight: Down 2 more pounds (182), I want to be 179 by Feb1.